Your Child Self Doesn’t Know, But Your Adult Self Does

Feeling stuck and unsure? Your inner child may not have the answers, but your adult self does. In this episode, we explore how to shift from uncertainty to confidence, take intentional action, and trust yourself to make empowered decisions. Tune in for mindset shifts, practical steps, and a powerful reminder that you are capable, wise, and in control of your life’s journey. 💡✨ 

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Hello everyone, and welcome to LoveTune, your space for healing, inspiration, and growth. My name is Ani Manukyan, and today we will be talking about Your child self doesn't know, but your adult self does. 

I was inspired to speak about this topic when I saw my friend waving her hands, crying, and saying, "I don't know what to do. I don't know what to do. Why am I here now?" 

And so on. And although it is completely okay to have moments where you feel bad for yourself, where you doubt, and uh, where you want that moment to cry it all out, it's also a good reminder to realize that whenever the phrase I don't know comes up, it is usually your inner child questioning. 

Who doesn't know the answers? Who doesn't feel safe? So I had to remind her that her adult self knows the answers. Her child self might not know at this moment in time, but her adult self does. So, taking your power back by bringing yourself out of this child's position when you start to say I don't know—let's go over some points about the child's position. 

The child self is usually unsure, overwhelmed, and dependent on others. A key trait is looking for someone else to take responsibility. For example, feeling stuck and saying, I don't know what to do. 

It is natural, and it's completely okay, like I said, to have this moment. But it's not a state that you need to be stuck in. 

You have the option to snap back from this state because your adult self knows. Your adult self aspect—which is your first name and your last name—knows it is capable, wise, and grounded, even if the next step is unclear. Your adult self can pause, reflect, take some time to make the best decision, take small intentional actions, or even choose not to act. 

Um, because sometimes the action is not to act. That's also knowing what to do. So here are four steps for you to snap out of this child's position whenever you find yourself in it. 

1. To shift this I don't know mindset, the first step is, of course, to catch yourself. Notice when you say the words I don't know and rely on others to tell you what to do.
2. Name it. Recognize that it is your child self speaking—the part of you that is looking for help and affirmation.
3. Say to yourself, I, [your full name], know what to do. We don't sign contracts with only our first name. Because you are an adult, you always use your first and last name.
4. Take a small action. Take one step or make one decision, even if that decision is to pause or take your time to know what the best option is moving forward.

And here's a little biker analogy to help you understand this concept even more deeply:
 
As a kid, you learned to ride a bike a little wobbly, a little unsure, and afraid to fall. You relied on someone else to hold you up. When you did fall, you cried for help, waiting for someone else to pick you up or complained to someone.
 
As you became a more experienced rider, you adjusted to bumps and different turns. You knew when to stop. And life is just like riding a bike. The adult self always knows how to navigate. And even if he or she falls, they can bring themselves up.
 
Even if you might need other people to help you, you will ask for this help and know that this is your next step. But you're not acting from your child self as if you are helpless and someone else needs to help you. Instead, you are choosing to allow someone to help you. These are two different concepts.

It's about not moving into this child position of I don't know what to do. Poor me. Feel sorry for me. I'm putting this responsibility on other people.
 
No. Snap yourself back out of it. Make the choice or decision that is best for you, or even wait for the best decision to reveal itself to you.
 
Takeaway points:
 

• Listen for I don't know in your vocabulary or even in conversations with others.
• Observe people who often use the words I don't know. How do they behave? Are they relying too much on other people? Are they playing into the child's position even though they are grown adults?
• Claim your adult self. Remind yourself: I know what to do. Even if at some point it might be unclear, you can find out, act, or pause intentionally. Even waiting is a decision.
• Trust yourself because your adult self always has the answers.

This will also help you build self-belief, courage, and boldness—relying on yourself. Even if the choice you make turns out to be a mistake, you still made that choice. You learn from it, without regrets.
 
Thank you so much for listening until the end. I am sending you so much love.
 
And remember: Your child self doesn't know, but your adult self always does.
 
Trust your inner adult and take charge of the ride of your life.
 
I encourage you to schedule a 30-minute free consultation session with me if you want to level up your life. You can find the link in the notes section, and I will see you in the next episode.