If You Have to Convince Yourself, Then It’s Not Yours

Discover why forcing yourself to accept something that doesn’t feel right leads to anxiety and inner conflict. Learn how to listen to your intuition, release fear-based choices, and create space for what truly belongs in your life. 


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Hello everyone and welcome to Lovetune, your space for healing, inspiration and growth. My name is Ani Manukyan and today we will be talking about. If you have to convince yourself, then it is not yours. We will cover why we start to rationalize and go into convincing ourselves mode when it comes to not only relationships but also items, things, anything.

Where it comes to. To a point where we feel like we have to convince ourselves that yes, this is the right choice. Because I mean if it was, then you wouldn't need convincing, right? So let's discuss a little bit why we go into this convincing mode that yes, this is or this might be right for me.

The nature of convincing ourselves is based on fear. It is based of lack mentality as well. When we get into this mindset of having to convince ourselves of something being right for us, as if we wouldn't know that internally. And then we neglect that intuitive signals and signs and everything telling us that this is not right.

But if we are too much in our minds, then the mind takes over with it beliefs of what we have experienced before that this is as best as it gets. If I don't get this bag or this relationship or whatever it is, then it won't get any better than this.

But it can't be further from the truth because the mind usually operates from a space of fear and collection of beliefs what we have collected and know from past experience. So the mind may compare to the past or what it knows, but the soul knows when it's right. The soul knows what it belongs to it and it knows also what is not yours.

So it's not something you really have to question if you're really deeply connected and rooted with yourself. When we try to force something to fit in, just like in a puzzle, it won't fit in. It will create even more damage than good from us forcing it to fit in into this mold and shape.

While if something is truly meant for you, it will feel very natural and it will bring peace within, it will not cause this anxiety. Is this right? Is this not right? Do I choose right or wrong? And you will not need to justify your choice. You will not need to say, yes, I choose this red top because red is my color, you know, you will know that, especially this red.

It belongs to me. I'm not questioning it. And also a great reminder, if you have to ask other people for their opinions, it's usually not the right choice. If you have to ask am I choosing the right choice from someone else or do I choose A or B, then don't choose A or B.

You know, choose whatever you know is right for you and, uh, nobody else will know. What's the right question? Uh, what's the right option for you better than you and your internal guidance? Or if you're constantly feeling uneasy or anxious about your choice, then it's probably not the right choice for you.

Because what is right for you will not make you feel anxious and bad about your choice. Questioning your choice. So get back to the route and get back to asking the right questions from yourself. Like, if this was truly mine, would I feel this bad about this? If this was truly mine, would I need anyone else's, uh, opinion about this subject

a lot of time? Again, what stops us is the fear, the fear of the truth, the fear of, well, if not this, then what else? But if you're in a space where you're holding on to something that is not serving you, then you're doing disservice to yourself and to the other person or to the other item that could find its own, its true owner.

The truth is, when you let go of this need of control that the mind creates, you can fully and truly breathe out then and feel this freedom, um, because you're letting go of so much this need of controlling so much of this need of making the right choice. So really letting it all go creates even more peace instead of this fear anxiety that your mind wants you to believe that will happen once you make the wrong choice or let the wrong choice go.

If anything, it will make you even more peaceful from letting go of what isn't aligned for you. And, uh, letting go creates room for things that truly belongs in your life to enter naturally. So whenever you feel and sense yourself forcing anything, forcing something to work, then let it go.

Let go of control slightly and see how much better you feel. Sometimes even distancing yourself from having to choose there and then can create space for you to align back to yourself and your truth. And know that if you have to choose this or that, then none of them might be the right choice for you.

So create that space and give yourself grace to have this space for yourself and not push to have this answer now or have this knowing now if it's not here right now. And again, it's the mind wanting to control. It has to be done now. I have to have the answer right now.

I have to make the best choice from what I have right now. So letting it all go helps you to create this inner peace. And only from inner peace will you know the best choice and the best answer for you. Not from a space of anxiety and fear. So, to summarize, remember always, if you have to convince yourself, then it is not yours.